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How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

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Over time, we all gather a set of constricting habits around us—ones that trap us in a zone of supposed comfort, well below what our potential would allow us to attain. Pretty soon, such habits slip below the level of our consciousness, but they still determine what we think that we can and cannot do—and what we cannot even bring ourselves to try. As long as you let these habits rule you, you’ll be stuck in a rut.

Like the tiny, soft bodied creatures that build coral reefs, habits start off small and flexible, and end up by building massive barriers of rock all around your mind. Inside the reefs, the water feels quiet and friendly. Outside, you think it’s going to be rough and stormy. There may be sharks. But if you’re to develop in any direction from where you are today, you must go outside that reef of habits that marks the boundaries of your comfort zone. There’s no other way. There’s even nothing specially wrong with those habits as such. They probably worked for you in the past.

But now, it’s time to step over them and go into the wider world of your unused potential. Your fears don’t know what’s going to be out there, so they invent monsters and scary beasts to keep you inside.

Staying in the Comfort Zone to Avoid Mistakes?

Nobody’s born with an instruction manual for life. Despite all the helpful advice from parents, teachers and elders, each of us must make our own way in the world, doing the best we can and quite often getting things wrong.

Messing up a few times isn’t that of a big deal. But if you get scared and try to avoid all mistakes by sticking with just a few “tried and true” behaviors, you’ll miss out on most opportunities as well.

Lots of people who suffer from boredom at work are doing it to themselves. They’re bored and frustrated because that’s what their choices have caused them to be. They’re stuck in ruts they’ve dug for themselves while trying to avoid making mistakes and taking risks. People who never make mistakes never make anything else either.

How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

It’s time to pin down the habits that have become unconscious and are running your life for you, and get rid of them. Here’s how to do it:

1. Understand the Truth about Your Habits

They always represent past successes. You have formed habitual, automatic behaviors because you once dealt with something successfully, tried the same response next time, and found it worked again. That’s how habits grow and why they feel so useful.

To get away from what’s causing your unhappiness and workplace blues, you must give up on many of your most fondly held (and formerly successful) habits and try new ways of thinking and acting. There truly isn’t any alternative. Those habits are going to block you from finding new and creative ideas. No new ideas, no learning. No learning, no access to successful change.

This article can help you understand better how habits work: What Is a Habit? Understand It to Control It 100%

2. Do Something—Almost Anything—Differently and See What Happens

Even the most successful habits eventually lose their usefulness as events change the world and fresh responses are called for. Yet we cling on to them long after their benefit has gone.

Past strategies are bound to fail sometime. Letting them become automatic habits that take the controls is a sure road to self-inflicted harm.

3. Take Some Time out and Have a Detailed Look at Yourself—With No Holds Barred

Discovering your unconscious habits can be tough. For a start, they’re unconscious, right? Then they fight back.

Ask anyone who has ever given up smoking if habits are tough to break. You’ve got used to them—and they’re at least as addictive as nicotine or crack cocaine.

4. Be Who You Are

It’s easy to assume that you always have to fit in to get on in the world; that you must conform to be liked and respected by others or face exclusion. Because most people want to please, they try to become what they believe others expect, even if it means forcing themselves to be the kind of person they aren’t, deep down.

You need to start by putting yourself first. You’re unique. We’re all unique, so saying this doesn’t suggest that you’re better than others or deserve more than they do.

You need to put yourself first because no one else has as much interest in your life as you do; and because if you don’t, no one else will. Putting others second means giving them their due respect, not ignoring them totally.

Keeping up a self-image can be a burden. Hanging on to an inflated, unrealistic one is a curse. Give yourself a break.

5. Slow Down and Let Go

Most of us want to think of ourselves as good, kind, intelligent and caring people. Sometimes that’s true. Sometimes it isn’t.

Reality is complex. We can’t function at all without constant input and support from other people.

Everything we have, everything we’ve learned, came to us through someone else’s hands. At our best, we pass on this borrowed existence to others, enhanced by our contribution. At our worst, we waste and squander it.

So recognize that you’re a rich mixture of thoughts and feelings that come and go, some useful, some not. There’s no need to keep up a façade; no need to pretend; no need to fear of what you know to be true.

When you face your own truth, you’ll find it’s an enormous relief. If you’re maybe not as wonderful as you’d like to be, you aren’t nearly as bad as you fear either.

The truth really does set you free; free to work on being better and to forgive yourself for being human; free to express your gratitude to others and recognize what you owe them; free to acknowledge your feelings without letting them dominate your life. Above all, you’ll be free to understand the truth of living: that much of what happens to you is no more than chance. It can’t be avoided and is not your fault. There’s no point in beating yourself up about it.

Final Thoughts

What is holding you in situations and actions that no longer work for you often isn’t inertia or procrastination. It’s the power of habitual ways of seeing the world and thinking about events. Until you can let go of those old, worn-out habits, they’ll continue to hold you prisoner.

To stay in your comfort zone through mere habit, or—worse still—to stay there because of irrational fears of what may lie outside, will condemn you to a life of frustration and regret.

If you can accept the truth about the world and yourself, change whatever is holding you back, and get on with a fresh view on life, you’ll find that single action lets you open the door of your self-imposed prison and walk free. There’s a marvelous world out there. You’ll see, if you try it!

New school year = new chances. And with two whole semesters ahead of you, right now is the perfect time to branch out and try something new. Signing up for clubs and sports tryouts can be tough, but putting yourself out there is definitely rewarding. If you’re looking for a guide to get yourself to the audition room, you’ve come to the right place. Here are some tips to step outside of your comfort zone and achieve your goals.

Believe in yourself

It’s always important to believe in yourself, especially when you’re trying something new. Although it might seem scary at the time, remember throughout the process that you can do it. Before the tryout or audition, imagine how you want the process to go. Think about everything from your outfit to where you’ll sit and take *lots* of deep breaths.

Just go for it

Walking into the audition room can be the most nerve-wracking part of the process. However, it’s the most important step. Whether you’re heading to the soccer field or walking into an informational meeting for the fall talent show, the first step is to sign up. Take several deep breathes and remind yourself that you can do it. Confidence is *always* key.

Talk to your support system

POV: You just arrived at cheer tryouts feeling extra nervous, so you decide to text your BFF for last minute advice. Chances are your bestie will probably gave you a pep talk and encouraging words to carry with you. If you’re feeling the need for some support, text or call your family and friends. They’ll give you good advice and stay with you no matter how the end result plays out.

Be confident

When you’re trying something new, it’s normal to feel nervous and second-guess your abilities. However, remember to believe in yourself. Take a deep breath, smile and remember that the nerves will go away with time. Chances are that halfway through the experience, you’ll realize that it isn’t so scary after all.

Congratulate yourself

Even if you didn’t end up getting the lead in the fall play, make sure to give yourself a pat on the back. You pushed yourself outside of your comfort zone and tried something new—and that’s *definitely* deserving of some self-love. Remind yourself of what you accomplished and that there’s always another chance to go after what you want.

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Become a Citizen of the World subscriber to learn how to break out of your comfort zone. Living abroad and traveling for two years has shown me life outside my comfort zone. Breaking out of your comfort zone is essential for transformation. Escape your comfort zone, and become a life long learner!

Become a Life Long Learner

Get outside your comfort zone to become a life long learner. Marvel at life by learning, creating and living a purposeful life. Instead of feeling stuck, deprived and depressed, step outside your comfort zone. A life long learner knows that learning and growth does not come when we’re comfortable. The moment I start to experience comfort, I no longer feel fulfilled and I start seeking out my next big challenge. After living the past 5 years self employed, and traveling the world, I cannot stay still, rather I am a forever learner. Being a lifelong learner means that I will always escape my comfort zone and against societal expectations to grow.

Try something you’ve never done before

Getting out of your comfort zone means trying something you’ve never done before. It’s taking a leap of faith, trying something new, getting scared and overcoming your fears. Whatever it is, big or small, the act of trying something new ignites something within us. Escaping your comfort zone doesn’t need to be major like booking a plane ticket. The simple act of roasting a turkey for your very first time, or the bigger task of learning how to drive. Stepping outside of your comfort zone is giving yourself a chance to grow. It’s time where you can feel like a child again, and just learn. This is what it means to become a life long learner.

You have to get out of your comfort zone

There are endless things to do to get out of your comfort zone. As long as you’re learning, and growing you are outside of your comfort zone. Dedicate yourself to becoming a life long learner, and getting out of your comfort zone will become easy. There are countless excuses for not following your dreams, and these excuses make you comfortable. I knew I wanted more out of life than working a 9-5 job, and only two weeks of vacation so I leaped out of my comfort zone, and into the world. Literally! I booked a one way ticket to South America and never looked back. You have to get out of your comfort zone to realize your dreams. My personal story is outlined in my best selling book, Citizen of the World A Guide to Adventure and Self Discovery. Get your copy here. Escape your comfort zone to live your best life possible.

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How Do I Avoid Comfort Zone?

The best way to avoid your comfort zone is to adapt the right mindset. Acknowledge that as human beings, we are forever learners. We must never stop learning, therefore we can never just stay in our comfort zones. Walking towards risks, will lead to larger returns. Acknowledging your fears as a sign of growth, rather than something holding you back will help adapt the right mindset.

Control Your Thoughts

You, yourself can control your thoughts! I’ve dedicated myself to Yoga for Mind Control. But, you don’t have to do yoga to control your thoughts. Control your thoughts to shift away from comfort. Instead of putting on your Pyjamas when you get home from work, go for a walk in a nearby forest. This way, you’re allowing new perspectives and new thoughts to come your way. Jumping out of your comfort zone can be as easy as taking a different path home, or going to a different grocery store. Simple tasks can help you avoid your comfort zone. Always remember that you are the captain of your own ship!

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Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone In a Relationship

If you feel that your relationship is too comfortable, chances are your spouse is feeling the same. Spice up your relationship by doing something new and exciting as a couple. Together, search ways on how to break out of your comfort zones. Taking this leap of courage and faith together will only strengthen your bond. It is so easy to fall into a routine with your favourite human, but stepping outside of your comfortable environment is healthy for a relationship.

Simple ways to make things exciting is to avoid going to the same restaurants, avoid ordering take out and opt to actually go out instead, and to be spontaneous. Spontaneity is a sexy trait that can really help a relationship leap out of comfort zone. The element of surprise can go along way. Ask yourself, “What can I do differently to surprise my spouse?” Remember to be creative, and playful. Try something you’ve never done to impact your relationship profoundly. We spontaneously go on road trips. What do you and your spouse to stay outside your comfort zones?

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I’m a total creature of habit. If I can get myself on a schedule, then you better bet I’m sticking to it. I love having a routine so that my life is streamlined and easy, but I do occasionally want to step outside my comfort zone for the sake of doing something new.

Nobody likes to be stressed or anxiety-ridden, and that’s why many of us fall into our comfortable routines in the first place. According to Alan Henry on Lifehacker, “Simply, your comfort zone is a behavioral space where your activities and behaviors fit a routine and pattern that minimizes stress and risk. It provides a state of mental security. You benefit in obvious ways: regular happiness, low anxiety, and reduced stress.”

But, as Henry also said, “. your comfort zone is neither a good or bad thing. It’s a natural state that most people trend towards. We all need that headspace where we’re least anxious and stressed so we can process the benefits we get when we leave it.”

If you’re looking to shake things up, get yourself out of a rut, or simply try something new, then here are a few ways to get yourself out of your comfort zone.

1. Switch Up The Little Things

Every day you wake up, eat a bagel, walk the same sidewalk to work, sit at your desk all day, walk the same route home, and fall asleep to the same TV show. For some this may sound like a dream, while others may think of it as a ‘Groundhog Day’ nightmare. If you need to break up such a routine, Henry suggests you “recalibrate your reality” by doing everyday things differently. Wake up a bit earlier, take a different way to work, or go to a new restaurant for lunch. You can even do little tasks differently, like brushing your teeth with your opposite hand (it’s incredibly difficult), just for the sake of jogging your brain awake.

2. Wear Something Different

Give me an entire closet full of v-neck, light knit sweaters and you’d make me a very happy lady. In the winter they are all I wear (well, with pants, of course), and it can get a bit monotonous. If you’re like me, then you may want to consider switching up your daily uniform. Go to work tomorrow with a bright lipstick that kind of freaks you out, or chop off all your hair. Whether you do something small, or something huge (get a pixie cut!) you’re sure to snap yourself out of your comfort zone.

3. Do Something That Scares You

For some people, getting out of their comfort zone means doing something that scares them, like speaking in public or getting on a plane. If you have a phobia, it can be much easier to just avoid what you’re afraid of until you’re old and gray. But what kind of a life is that? Of course it’s easier said than done, and that’s why you should do little things each day that scare you in an effort to build up to getting over your phobia. Let’s say you’re afraid to walk around your town because you hate crowds. Go for a walk each day when no one’s really out, and then work up to walking more and more blocks until you find yourself getting used to it. Experiencing little bought of discomfort each day can add up to you getting over a fear.

4. Get Rid Of Your Old Stuff

Everyone knows the feeling you get when you clean out your closet and donate all your old stuff. It’s like you have a new lease on life, even though all you did was get rid of some stretched out shirts. But for many people the prospect of letting go of their things can be pretty difficult. I’m constantly fighting my hoarding urges, so I totally get it. And also of the opinion that if it scares you or is something you don’t want to do, then you should probably do it.

5. Hang Out In New Locations

If you frequent the same places every day, try switching it up and going somewhere different for once in your life. It can be a new place for dinner, a new coffee shop, or a new bar with your friends. But if chilling at home is more your speed, it can sometimes be as simple as sitting on a different part of your couch. As Henrik Edberg notes on The Positivity Blog, “If you have favorite chair or part of the sofa where you always sit then try another chair or place to sit today. It can give you a new perspective at work or at home. And I have found that it can even give me some new and fresh thoughts and perspectives on life.”

6. Have Some Alone Time

Many of us get stuck in a rut because we’re running, running, running and never take a moment to catch our breath — or even realize we’re in a rut in the first place. Take time to remember that you’re a person and not just a working robot machine. It’s important to recharge, so make sure that you take some time for yourself, and evaluate if that comfort zone of yours is even where you want to be.

If you find yourself stuck in your comfort zone, you should probably take some steps to break yourself free (whether you want to or not). Stepping out of your comfort zone will allow you to see the world with a fresh perspective, help you combat your fears, and force you to try new things that you never considered before.

“Growth and comfort do not coexist” — Ginny Rometty

You’ve definitely been told at various points in your life that you need to break out of your comfort zone.

Maybe you’ve been at a restaurant and have been nervous to try a new dish, or you’ve been in the same position at the same job for way too many years, and now it’s time for a change. In any of these cases, it’s probably time to break out in order to really succeed.

Beyond discovering tasty exotic food, studies show that stepping out of your comfort zone leads to greatly increased productivity, creativity, and the ability to cope with unexpected changes and further your success.

When you’re sweating bullets and are so terrified that you can barely function, stepping outside your comfort zone is anything but productive.

Taking a leap of faith can be downright intimidating. After all, our comfort zone has the word “comfort” in it for a reason. In fact, that’s the reason many of us avoid stepping outside this zone — we’ve heard a million times over that it’s great for us, but it feels absolutely awful in practice.

Thankfully, science has an answer.

A study conducted way back in 1908 by two psychologists showed that remaining in a state of comfort ensured steady performance (sounds about right). However, in order to increase or maximize performance levels, we need to be in a space of “optimal anxiety”. This is where we benefit from a little bit of fear.

Or, as the New York Times recently put it, “ If you’re too comfortable, you’re not productive. And if you’re too uncomfortable, you’re not productive. Like Goldilocks, we can’t be too hot or too cold.”

Challenging yourself in this place can allow you to accomplish incredible things. Think of a mountain climber; when they begin climbing mountains they don’t start with Everest. They start with smaller peaks until they build up a tolerance. Once that tolerance is reached, the climber will plateau and achieve a steady state of performance, then destroy that tolerance until they reach the literal and figurative peak.

You easily can do this too by reaching your “optimal anxiety” — that Goldilocks level where you achieve maximum productivity and continually push your boundaries.

Take baby steps

Even US Olympians and Navy SEALs rely on baby-steps to achieve their huge goals and step out of their comfort zones. That’s because Harvard research suggests that breaking down your goals into tiny, daily steps is the easiest way to reach those huge successes.

Rather than jumping into the deep end (literally or figuratively), take a few steps out of the shallow end today. If you’re thinking of opening a business, for instance, Forbes suggests you “interview one business owner.” Before you know it, you’ll have taken huge leaps and your comfort zone will be a faraway distant memory.

Be curious

Ginny Rometty also said “The most important thing for any of us to be in our jobs is curious.”

If you’re not sure where to take baby-steps, take a page from Rometty and be curious. Everything from a new cooking class to attending a conference at work is a great step towards an optimized destruction of your comfort zone. That’s not to mention how being curious and learning new things has attributed to the success of numerous moguls, including Bill Gates and Oprah Winfrey. Once you start stepping out and gaining new success (and fun experiences), you’ll realize your comfort zone isn’t so comfortable after all.

Most importantly, scare yourself once a day

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Roosevelt was right on the money. Think back to the NYT suggestion: is there something that you’ve been putting off because it brings butterflies to your stomach? Is there a slight fear you have, but you know you’ll be more productive by moving towards it?

Whether it’s going to that job interview or just saying “hi” to someone you want to meet, make an effort to do it daily, knowing that it will be a step towards conquering your fears and success goals.

As Sheryl Sandberg put it, “we hold ourselves back in ways both big and small, by lacking self-confidence, by not raising our hands, and by pulling back when we should be leaning in”.

I am not saying this is easy, and its certainly easier to write about than to put into action, but it’s the only way to make changes on a daily basis that affect our lives for the better. You may also fail at first, but if you stay in the “scary” place of optimal anxiety, you may find yourself taking important risks that you never thought you would do. Truly successful people believe in the power of this fear, and they never stay in the comfort zone.

We may not be aware of how locked in the comfort zone we actually are. The more we risk in the right ways, the more we succeed.

What are your tips for breaking out of your comfort zone? I want to hear from you !

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Your comfort zone is a place where you feel safe and in control. This refers to a psychological state where you are familiar with your surroundings. This could include; people, your environment or your emotions. However, your comfort zone may be hindering your personal progression and development.

Have you ever heard of the saying “Life starts outside of your comfort zone”?.

The visual below represents how breaking out of your comfort zone can be a step towards achieving things you never thought were possible. The four stages in this diagram include:

1. Comfort Zone

2. Fear Zone

3. Learning Zone

4. Growth Zone

Each zone represents progress towards achieving a new mindset. The majority of people are happy to be in the ‘Comfort Zone’ where they feel safe and in control of their situation. Whilst in your comfort zone you may be faced with a variety of challenges which have lead you to the ‘Fear Zone’ . Once faced by the ‘Fear Zone’ , you may have felt a lack of self-confidence and made an excuse to return back to your comfort zone. This is the most common mindset to have and it is within out nature to want to feel comfortable.

However, what you may not realise is that the ‘Fear Zone’ is a temporary place that is going to lead you to an improved mindset. If you can find the courage and self-belief to stop making excuses and over come the affects of other peoples opinions, you will soon find yourself in the ‘Learning Zone’ .

The ‘Learning Zone’ is a place of experience. It is where you are out of your comfort zone but have found a new confidence to deal with challenges and problems head on. Whilst doing this, you will be gaining new skills and experiences that will allow you to expand your comfort zone and begin achieving things you never thought would be possible.

The final stage of this process is the ‘Growth Zone’ . This is where you are living with freedom and a sense of purpose. Not many people are brave enough to make it to this point. Getting here is uncomfortable and takes a lot of resilience. As a human, we are built to stick to routine and the emotion of fear often directs our actions. However, to ensure personal growth, it is imperative that we begin to make a change.

A key sign that you have made it to the ‘Growth Zone’ is that you have a new mindset. At this stage you will be thinking differently and beginning to live with freedom. In the ‘Growth Zone’ the sky really is the limit. You will have the motivation to set new goals and objectives that you are confident you will achieve. Alongside this, you will be attracting more people who are also experiencing the ‘Growth Zone’.

It is important that this process is reflected not only in you, but the people around you. If you are surrounded by people who are happy to be in their comfort zones for the rest of their lives, then it will be harder for you to create a positive change. The best thing to do is to experience new environments and experiences. These new places will often help you to meet like-minded individuals who are on the same journey to the ‘Growth Zone’ as you.

Remember, your success is often influenced by the 5 people who you spend the most time with. Think about whether your friends and family members are hindering your growth and having an impact on your mindset.

The first step to help you break out of your comfort zone is always going to be the hardest. We recommend trying a small activity that you would never normally want to do. If you can’t do this, try switching up your normal routine or try saying ‘Yes’ more often.

Below are a few quotes to inspire you to take the first step!

  • “If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you”
  • “Old ways won’t open new doors”
  • “We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are”
  • “A comfort zone is a great place, but nothing ever grows there”
  • “A ship is always safe at the shore, but that is not what it was built for”
  • “If you want something you have never had, then you have to do something you have never done”

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The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success.

1. Become Aware of What’s Outside of Your Comfort Zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but, are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts but, your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become Clear About What You Are Aiming to Overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your look? Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get Comfortable with Discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See Failure as a Teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Check out these 10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On.

Also, grab The Foolproof Guide To Reaching Your Goals This Year. It’s a free guide that can help you to learn from your past mistakes and failures so you can move on to reach your goal. Get your free guide here.

5. Take Baby Steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps: The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with Risk Takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. Almost inevitably, their influence will start to have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be Honest with Yourself When You Are Trying to Make Excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify How Stepping out Will Benefit You

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

9. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the Fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

Final Thoughts

It will seem really scary at first to get out of your comfort zone. But as I said, you don’t need to jump right out of your comfort zone at once, you can take baby steps gradually.

As you slowly push past your comfort zone, you’ll feel more and more at ease about the new stuff which seemed so dangerous to you.

Take the first step and I’m sure you’ll make it!

Sports includes a wide variety of activities. There are well-known sports such as NHL, NBA and soccer, but then there are also new sports such as electronic sports and bossaball. Most people see these sports as a pastime that could turn into a career later in the future, but it’s most often referred to as a hobby for your own enjoyment.

However, sports is actually one of the most effective ways to break out of your comfort zone. We’ll be explaining what we mean by breaking out of the comfort zone and how it can have a positive effect on your life.

Trying something new can help you break out of your comfort zone

One of the best ways to break out of your comfort zone is to simply try new things. There are lots of people that stick with what they know because it makes them comfortable and they know a lot about their existing hobbies and passions. However, if you’re willing to step out of that zone and try something new, you can quickly learn new skills, get more creative and also boost your confidence.

If you do the same thing for too long, it’ll eventually dull your skills and creativity. You’ll find yourself less likely to try something new later in the future and it’ll become even scarier to break out of what you’re used to. Once you keep trying new sports and getting used to the lack of a comfort zone, you’ll find that doing new things becomes the norm. At this stage, you’ll have so much confidence that you’ll feel like you can do almost anything and excel at it.

Some easy ways to get into sports

We understand that it can be hard to get out of your comfort zone, so here are a few suggestions on how to ease yourself in.

  • Try playing a fantasy sports game to give you more incentive to watch and follow it. You can find winning DFS NHL hockey picks to help you make a solid fantasy team which can help you cheer on specific players and learn more about the individuals on each team.
  • Get into it with some friends and family members. Maybe people you know are already passionate about a sport you’re interested in or perhaps they’re willing to learn about it with a little encouragement.
  • Join sports communities to meet new people and make new friends to talk to about sports. This can be useful if there’s nobody else that you can really talk to about sports and it also boosts your confidence when meeting new people.

Hopefully, this post has given you some incentive to try adopting sports as a passion. More sports in your life is usually a good thing, especially if you find yourself stagnating or being afraid of learning something new. If you learn to brave it and break out of your comfort zone, your confidence will quickly return and drastically improve your life.

How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

Donald Trump famously said, “Avoid your comfort zone – it’s probably outdated anyway.” It is very good advice for people who are exceptional, but what if you are not exceptional? You probably learned in college that no matter how good you are at something, there are always other people who are better than you.

Are you humble enough to say you are not exceptional? And if so, isn’t it possible that your comfort zone is where you belong? Just because you are in your comfort zone, it doesn’t mean you don’t crave success. Champion boxers never leave their comfort zone to take part-time jobs as a typist. Consider the fact that your comfort zone is the place where you will enjoy the most success.

Why “Comfort Zone” Advice Seems So Correct

Once again, breaking out of your comfort zone may be the right thing to do if you are exceptional. It is especially true for exceptional people because breaking out of their comfort zone is often the only place where they can grow. Yet, that is not the only reason why breaking out of your comfort zone seems like good advice.

The truth is that most people confuse being in a rut with being in their comfort zone. For example, the middle-aged executive who stays in his dead-end job because it is safe, rather than starting a new business selling parachute lessons, is not staying in his comfort zone, he is sticking with his rut. If people tell the middle-aged executive to get out of his comfort zone, they actually mean he should get out of his rut.

However, take the same middle-aged executive who is well respected at work, whose job is not a dead-end one, whose social life thrives because of his job, who’s bringing up children, investing, and who is healthy because of his job. If this same person were to leave his job to start a parachute training company, he would be leaving his comfort zone and most probably be making a great mistake.

Isn’t the Grass Always Greener On The Other Side?

Taking the previous example, what if the middle-aged executive left his job and his parachute training company offered him all the same things his old job offered him except better? Isn’t it always a good idea to try and fail rather than to never try at all?

The question and sentiment is fine, but it is not real life. Ask a person who has tried everything and ask a person who tried a bunch of stuff and then found something he/she enjoyed, and ask which person is happiest. Just because you “Didn’t” try something doesn’t mean you are missing out.

“The grass isn’t always greener on the other side!” – Ricky Gervais

What About People Who Broke Out of Their Comfort Zone?

There is an old “Will & Grace” episode from 2002 called, “Went to a Garden Potty.” In it an old man says a line that goes, “I’m Stan’s old partner. We started the mattress store together, then he wanted to branch out into other businesses but I said, no I’ll just not take any chances, so now I’ve got the one little store and he’s worth hundreds of millions of dollars.

The mattress store story sounds familiar doesn’t it? You have read about similar stories in motivational books, but what you rarely read about are people who didn’t take risks and still became successful millionaires. A book called, “The Millionaire Next Door” addresses this discrepancy by featuring people who became millionaires by selling caravans and by being dentists. It shows how people who work the same job their entire lives are not schmucks, and that their unexciting success stories are still success stories.

Do not confuse taking risks with being outside of your comfort zone. In the “Will & Grace” example, the character Stan felt outside of his comfort zone with just one store. Stan’s comfort zone was taking risks. Stan didn’t leave his comfort zone when he went off making millions of dollars, he entered his comfort zone in order to do it.

The people who risk it all on a penny-share company are not doing it to break out of their comfort zone, they are doing it because they feel uncomfortable if they are not taking risks.

“Unexceptional” People Can Be “Exceptionally” Successful in Their Comfort Zone

I don’t like to be out of my comfort zone, which is about a half an inch wide.” That line is a quote from Larry David, the guy who wrote “Curb your Enthusiasm” and “Seinfeld” and he is worth $400 million.

Stephen King was 27 when he sold his first book, and he was writing long before that. King hasn’t left his comfort zone since he was out of college, and he is worth $400 million. One could even say that Stephen King rarely leaves his comfort zone creatively since his stories almost always feature a middle aged man, and many times the middle-aged man has a creative career such as being a writer, painter, etc.

Danica Patrick, when asked how she became the best female racer in the world responded with, “I never do anything out of my comfort zone.” Does that mean this woman, who is worth $60 million, never takes risks? You would know the answer if you had ever watched her race.

Do not forget the psychological damage that repeated failure can do to a person. People who say, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” have clearly never gone through a terrible time because terrible times often make you weaker.

Repeatedly trying to break out of your comfort zone, only to be kicked back and stomped into the ground (metaphorically speaking) takes its toll and will often sap your enthusiasm to keep going forwards.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie

Conclusion – He Will Be Back

Have you considered that exceptional people do not have a comfort zone? Take Arnold Schwarzenegger, whose last name has found its way into every spell checker program on the planet. He was a world-class bodybuilder, a record breaking actor, married a Kennedy, and became a US governor.

Some people say he was so successful because he never became comfortable being the best at just one thing. Maybe that is the reason for his success, maybe he wasn’t trying to break from his comfort zone…maybe he was trying to find it.

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How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

Changing the Landscape of Social Working in social for a pharma organization is not an easy task. It’s such an important industry, and that often leaves little room for maneuver when creating a social strategy. José Avila, Customer Engagement Transformation Lead at Sanofi, joins this Social Pros episode to discuss how to break out of […]

Changing the Landscape of Social

Working in social for a pharma organization is not an easy task. It’s such an important industry, and that often leaves little room for maneuver when creating a social strategy.

José Avila, Customer Engagement Transformation Lead at Sanofi, joins this Social Pros episode to discuss how to break out of your ‘social comfort zone’ and how he’s working to transform the face of pharma social.

And that’s not all. He also talks about why he prioritizes customer engagement, putting the customer first in every situation, and how to talk to your superiors when putting forward progressive social ideas.

The episode is jam-packed with excellent advice to get those social juices flowing, and you’ll be inspired to ask yourself questions about your own strategy!

In This Episode:

  • 05:06 – How pharma companies use social
  • 09:00 – Where José’s passion for pharma began
  • 15:13 – Has José’s late arrival to pharma social helped him?
  • 17:26 – The pharma comfort zone
  • 19:49 – How is social evolving?
  • 25:10 – Doctors as influencers and José’s three mindsets
  • 31:42 – José’s ‘secret sauce’ to breaking social boundaries
  • 37:30 – Breaking out of your comfort zone
  • 41:20 – José’s advice to budding social pros

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How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

Over the past few years I, like most Millennials, have been in a pivotal developmental stage of my life. These changes were important, but they also felt overwhelming and new. This time has forced me to develop my own identity and become an adult who can primarily rely on herself.

Most importantly, though, these changes have pushed me out of my comfort zone.

If you’d told me ten years ago that I’d accomplish all that I have today, I would have panicked about how overwhelming it all sounded. Now, I don’t even think about how scary it seemed; I just think about how I thrived.

Pushing myself out of my comfort zone taught me that I’m more capable than I had ever thought.

I traveled to a new city alone and visited the love of my life. I’ve learned how to mend my heart after a failed relationship left me heartbroken. I found a new career path after I graduated college and again after a company laid me off two years later. I overcame my anxiety and started shopping in public on my own. Even though my anxiety made it difficult, I rekindled and strengthened my friendships after life carried my friends and I in different directions. I also faced my fear of driving and finally earned my license. Finally, I started a weight loss journey that I’m still working on (because I just love McDonalds, OK?) It’s insane to consider all that happened in my life within 2 years!

Before this stage of life, I would only tackle one new thing at a time and overthink and hesitate beforehand. I’m the world’s biggest worrywart, so, I worried about outcomes, I worried about the difficulties I might encounter, and I worried how I would handle myself. I let my fear hold me back from so many new experiences, but I won’t anymore.

Breaking out of your comfort zone helps you discover a lot about yourself.

Sure, you always know what your interests are, but you don’t truly learn who you are until you start doing the things that make you feel uncomfortable. When you break out of your comfort zone, you discover your true passions, abilities, and willpower. Breaking free from the box you’re living in also strengthens your problem-solving skills, which helps you make important decisions with less hesitation.

In every new situation, you will have moments that will leave you feeling defeated. There will be times when you discover that some things just aren’t for you. But that’s OK! As long as you choose to make the most out of life and take leaps, you’ll live life with less fear and more happiness.

Will Smith recently appeared on the Ellen DeGeneres Show and discussed the significance of his bungee-jumping experience. He made a promise to himself to do the things that made him feel uncomfortable because he was tired of missing out. He recognized that his fear of the unknown and his desire to remain in his comfort zone were holding him back.

I couldn’t agree more! We must challenge ourselves so we can grow. When we stay in our comfort zones, we miss out on adventures and live with regrets. When we break free, we feel confident and satisfied. Who wouldn’t want that?

If you’re struggling to break out of your comfort zone, try something small, like making friends online. You never know what you can achieve until you push your limits and try. I’m thankful for all the experiences life has thrown my way these past two years because I wouldn’t be who I am without them. So to live your best life, break free and find yourself.

Vacation is truly a way to get away from it all. Why is it that in addition to our resort wear, bathing suits and paperback novels, we bring along our insecurities and sense of personal limitations? Your vacation should be a break from the ordinary, a way to get out there and live it up, live life to its fullest and experience all that the world has to offer! I think that we should treat our travels as a getaway not just from our work and the responsibilities of home, but from every boring aspect of our lives. Break out of your comfort zone on vacation. Do something crazy. Do something that you never thought that you’d do in a million years…it will keep the excitement of your vacation alive in your heart and make memories that will last a lifetime!

Just Give it a Shot

On my very first press trip for my blog, I was asked to go horseback riding along the beach in Jamaica. I am terrified of horses – I’d like to think that it’s a healthy fear, a testament to their strength and power…but my fear was challenged, and not wanting to be that girl who refused to participate in a group activity, I obliged. It was a little stressful at first, but halfway through the horseback ride, I began to relax and enjoy myself! It was a great learning experience for me, and now I always say “yes” when I am invited to do something that challenges me to break out of my comfort zone.

In January this year, I rode through Red Rock Canyon, just outside of Las Vegas. It was my favorite part of my trip to Las Vegas and made me realize just how much I would have missed if I hadn’t said yes!

Don’t Be Afraid to Go Off the Grid

On my first trip to Texas, my friend suggested that we go tubing. An ice cold river, a bathing suit in front of a ton of strangers and six hours without a cell phone signal…I wasn’t too keen on leaving my phone in the car while we floated down the Guadalupe for six hours, but I did it.

And I loved it! It was one of the most fun activities I’ve ever done; we spent the day floating, talking to people we met along the way, and ended the day with new friends. Truth be told, I didn’t even miss my phone because I was having so much fun with my friends – and making new friends!

I did have my friend stop on the way home so that I could snap a photo though…

Expand Your Culinary Horizons

My daughter’s first foray into spicy cuisine was a piece of jerk chicken while we were in port of call in Negril, Jamaica. She loved it so much that she insisted that I learn how to make it after we returned home from our Carnival Caribbean cruise. Her adventurous spirit inspired me to start eating outside of my comfort zone while traveling, and while there are some things I will NEVER eat again, I have found a few great new recipes through my culinary exploration, with some amazing surprises along the way!

For instance, while in Mexico City last year, I was offered a dish that consisted of hibiscus flowers wrapped in a tortilla, alongside a tortilla topped with seasoned crickets.

Yes, I said crickets.

I ate them. Because why not? They weren’t the most delicious thing on the menu that evening, but they weren’t all that bad, either. They tasted like salty chicken and the worst part of the entire experience was getting a scratchy little leg caught between my teeth.

Thank goodness I travel with dental floss!

Do Something That Scares You

I enjoy doing things that are little risky from time to time, but there are certain activities that scare the bejeezus out of me – like white water rafting. While in Costa Rica earlier this year, I passed on the opportunity to go white water rafting because I was actually scared. I had never been white water rafting before, and the idea completely terrified me. As soon as I returned home, I regretted missing my opportunity and decided that I would do it when I was in North Carolina later in the summer.

I was still afraid – so much so that I had my fingers crossed the entire way to the river that it would be closed due to weather. The weather was lovely, and we embarked on our little white water rafting adventure. My adrenaline was pumping, my heart was racing, and it ended up being my favorite part of our family vacation!

Participating in an activity that scares you, like white water rafting, is a way to make the most of your vacation. We travel to experience new things, so why limit that exposure to the cities you walk and the food you eat?

Be Adventurous

By day, I am a work-at-home, carpooling mom. I spend the majority of each day at my desk, or out running errands. Life is busy, and hectic, but rather boring. I would venture to say that many people share this type of lifestyle – we work all day, spend our evenings cooking or cleaning up, and the weekends being a bit lazy and concentrating on spending quality time with the family.

There’s nothing wrong with that – at the end of a long work week, most people don’t have the energy to do something wild and crazy.

Vacation should be different! Vacation should be full of excitement and adventure, full of the kinds of activities that leave your heart full of giddy happiness when it’s time to go home and sit back down at the desk. Do something a little crazy while you’re on vacation. Go white water rafting, eat exotic cuisine, go cave diving, learn how to snorkel or go ziplining! When my family goes on vacation, we always seek out a ziplining excursion, like the Puerto Rico Canopy Adventure we did while on a Carnival cruise last summer.

By Aimee Leigh — Written on Jun 26, 2019

How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

If you want to live a full life with confidence and without fear, you need to learn how to build trust within yourself and get out of your comfort zone.

All of us hit those times in our lives where we want to take the next step, put one foot in front of the other, or make that huge giant leap — be it a new career, a new relationship or simply just even going to a social event.

But, we’re just not confident enough to go through with it.

For a lot of us, we hit a layer of our biggest fears that end up stifling us. They stop us right in our tracks and keep us from making the leaps and bounds that we want to make in our lives.

We see a clear vision. We imagine what it would feel like to be at the party, to say “no” when we don’t want to do something and to say “yes” when we do. But, the fear pops up and we stay stuck in the cycle of where we are, which is growing to be uncomfortably comfortable.

We want to venture out of our comfort zones but the fear typically pushes us back in. We become prisoners and chained to our own fears and thoughts and never truly embracing the fearless lives that we dream of.

When it comes to ourselves, we have a lot of trust issues.

But, what if self-trust is the antidote to fear?

We need to eliminate fear so that we can live our fullest lives with true confidence. But, what truly is it that we’re in fear of?

We fear making the wrong choice when we get married. If we leave the marriage, we won’t be able to support ourselves, find love again, and be alone for the rest of our lives.

We fear changing our career path and starting our own business in which we are passionate about. We fear not being able to pay the bills, of failure, of making a mistake, and not having the same income, security or resources that we currently have at the very stable job (which, by the way, is soul-sucking and holds no passion).

When we go to a party or a social event, there is a fear that we will say the wrong thing, not look a certain way, become so overwhelmed that it is awkward. Or maybe a fear that we will drink too much, eat too much, or share too much.

There’s always a fear to move through for all of us. The common thread in all of these fears is a lack of self-trust, knowing that we can and will do/be/create the way we desire to.

Building confidence in ourselves means trusting that we will create what it is we desire in our lives. Knowing that we trust ourselves to say the right thing gives us permission to speak our truth and be in the moment with more joy, creativity, and passion.

And if we don’t say the “right thing” in the eyes of someone else, love ourselves anyways and stay committed, dedicated, and loyal to ourselves versus falling into judgment and criticism siding with the person in whose eyes we didn’t say the “right thing”.

We need to trust that we will not fall into self-deprecation if we feel we said the wrong thing and are judged or not accepted by others. We have to trust ourselves to have our own back and be compassionate and gracious with ourselves.

It takes a lighthearted vibration of amusement to stay above the vacuum effect of being pulled into limiting beliefs, behaviors, and actions created from judgment — the negative thoughts that we have towards ourselves.

What if we trusted that no matter what, we will make it work? We will have the money to pay the bills. We will create exactly what we’re desiring. It may look different, but the elements of what we want to experience and create in this life, we are more than capable of creating.

We are in the present moment and trust that whatever comes our way, we can manage.

We will have the information, answers, and awareness to respond accordingly when situations arise.

What if you trust that? What if you adopted the term, “Not if, but when.”

“Not if my business does well, but when it succeeds.”

“Not if I find love again, but when I find love again.”

“Not if I create an amazing group of friends, but when I create an amazing group of friends.”

We need to trust ourselves that we will show up no matter what. And one of the ways that we do this is to do what we say, make small commitments to ourselves and do them no matter what.

Show yourself by creating evidence of your reliability and capabilities and develop a solid sense of self and trust in self.

If you say you want to work out every single day, then work out every single day, even if that means doing so at 10 o’clock at night before going to sleep. When you wake the next morning, you cannot imagine how empowered you will feel knowing that despite exhaustion, despite the voices in your head saying “just go to sleep and do it tomorrow”, you chose to stay true to you and you did it anyway.

This establishes a pattern and energy that you can trust yourself because you will do what you say.

How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

To Grow, Break Out of Your Comfort Zone at Work
If you want to develop your special talents to propel you upward in your career, you need to break out of your comfort zone at work.

What is the Comfort Zone?
Most people love their comfort zone. It is where we feel at ease and in control. There is minimal anxiety or stress. We relax in the familiarity of the setting and what is asked of us and feel mentally and emotionally secure.

What is Wrong with the Comfort Zone?
The problem with staying in your comfort zone is that your performance never changes or improves. In a business setting or in a high performance culture, that can be problematic – not only for you but also for your team and the company as a whole. To succeed, most people and companies need to keep learning and improving.

Complacency is the enemy of growth and development.

To Break Out of Your Comfort Zone is Not About “Doing More”
It’s not just about “doing more stuff.” Breaking out of your comfort zone can mean finding ways to be more productive and be smarter about the way you work. It can mean that you become less afraid of taking risks, encountering change, and trying to do things you wouldn’t normally do. It can mean that you are more open to new ideas and creative thinking.

Healthy Stress
According to Psychology Today, too much stress is toxic, but a little can make you stronger. One recent study showed that people’s peripheral vision drops from 180 degrees to 30 degrees during times of stress. It sure seems like a similar drop in people’s ability to think clearly occurs during stress.

While everyone needs some amount of psychological safety and some absence of interpersonal fear to experiment, collaborate, and innovate, if you truly aspire to achieving personal and professional growth, you need to get used to stretching just beyond the boundaries of your comfortable patterns and routines. A little bit of “healthy” stress can be a catalyst for learning.

The enemy to overcome is our fear of failure. If we are in its grip, we don’t even try potential new ways of doing things. We are stuck. What we need to recognize is that there is no real learning without some difficulty and some fumbling.

There will be missteps. But the cost of not trying is too dear. If you want to keep learning and growing, you have to risk failure.

Reasons to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone
Here are two reasons to break out of your comfort zone and stretch yourself:

  • Greater Creativity
    Trying new things inspires you to be more creative and opens you up to new experiences. Recent research found, for example, that students who dared to leave their familiar campus to study abroad scored higher on two different tests of creativity than those who stayed stateside.
  • Better Aging
    Have you noticed that as most people age their comfort zones get smaller and smaller? A study conducted in 2013 showed that learning new and challenging skills can help us stay mentally astute as we age.

The Bottom Line
The trick is to find a happy medium between pushing hard enough to try new things but not so much that you are overwhelmed by the stress and anxiety. Be brave and expand your zone. You will be glad you did.

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A comfort zone is psychological space where we feel the safest and find the most comfort.

It’s the style of living where everything is familiar and the challenges are so mundane that nothing can surprise us.

But if everything is familiar to you and nothing can surprise you than there is nothing new and exciting in your life either.

Even though comfort zones are a natural program we create to keep us safe with less energy input, sometimes they are our prison. They keep us safe as much as prison walls keep prisoners safe from the outside world.

In some cases, comfort zones might even be harmful to your health, and you’ll subconsciously assume you are safe, just because you are surrounded with the familiar unhealthy behaviors.

Humans are not meant to just stay safe. We are meant to live and living means sometimes we need to explore unknown territories, both outside and inside of ourselves.

Like a gold that keeps its shine with every polishing, so are human beings designed to shine with every pressure there is. Comfort zones couldn’t give us that.

But comfort zones are not bad as long as you have the courage to break out of them. In fact, that’s how you grow.

Here are the 7 most important character evolving benefits we get from breaking out of our comfort zones:

1. Outside of your comfort zone is where you feel most alive.

Let’s travel back in time when you were still a kid. Remember the times you were scared of trying new things?

By doing the thing you were scared of, you felt the most alive. You learned something that stayed with you.

2. Breaking out of your comfort zone develops your character.

As you grow older, you give more value on stability because stability promises you security.

But security does not develop you, finding security or creating it does.

You can do that only by exploring into the unknown, where things are not so familiar and you must think outside of your daily pattern.

And that’s how you develop new aspects of your character.

3. Outside of your comfort zone is where you find new passions and discover new talents.

You are like a flower, and the real essence of who you are is covered by the leaves of the flower. As you go through life you open some leaves.

But most people open just a few, never realizing who they really are and what their potential really is.

By breaking out of your comfort zone you try new things and you open more and more from the flower.

You discover other aspects of yourself, other passions and different talents that you have. That’s how you find out your essence.

4. Breaking out of your comfort zone gives you new realms to explore.

Spending more of your time with the same people, talking about the same topics with the same flow of reasoning may make you close-minded to all the other ways of living.

When you expose yourself to a different setting, another group of people, other opinions and cultures, you go to realms you never thought existed. Your mind opens up.

By doing the same routine every day you are living a mechanical existence. Your brain uses the same neurons and neural pathways.

The countless other neural pathways and potential neural connections stay dormant, all these other ways of seeing the world are unused.

But once you go to an unfamiliar territory to explore, your mind fully activates and you see things with a greater clarity.

In a way, you force your mind to use different neural pathways by changing the pattern.

You can try by just turning your phone off to focus on new things. It works wonders.

5. Escaping your comfort zone builds your self confidence.

Anxiety issues might arise by merely thinking of talking to strangers. But actually doing that is how you make the anxiety fade away from your life.

By trying new things you have never done before, it’s normal to feel a little afraid and have anxiety. That’s a healthy response to new situations.

However, being strong enough to not let those emotions decide for you is what builds your confidence.

By gaining experiences of situations where you were courageous enough, despite the outcome, you are giving yourself memories from where your self esteem can arise.

The easier it is for you to get self esteem, the stronger self confidence you will have. And the stronger self confidence you have, the less anxiety you will feel.

6. Getting out of your comfort zone makes you an interesting person.

Amazing things start to happen once you break out of your comfort zone. Because they’re new, they’ll appear weird, crazy and epic.

These things are full with details and emotions. They shape great stories and interesting conversations with people.

People would always like to hear about your new adventure and the crazy things you encountered along the way.

Even if you are really bad at telling stories, just sharing your memories from outside of your comfort zone makes you a lot more interesting person than anyone who rarely escapes their comfort zone.

7. Outside of your comfort zone fills your heart and expands your spirit.

When you spread your wings to fly, you’ll see different communities and worlds that exist. You get to learn from them. You discover new things.

There are a lot of sports, activities, foods, books, events and music to experience. There are countless places and people to get to know.

There are categories you can explore that you don’t even know are out there. The world is a much bigger place than you can even imagine.

You cannot explore all the art and all the beautiful creations people have given even if you try something new every second.

There is no logical reason to not do what fills your heart and expands your spirit, especially in today’s age when you can do almost everything through a device in your pocket.

Life is a gift. It’s such a waste to spend it in mundane routines and predictability.

Escape your comfort zone, go to a new bar, travel, talk to strangers, try new food, listen to new music, read a new book, do something you are afraid of.

Taking the first steps may seem terrifying. But that fear fades the moment you take action.

That fear is nothing compared to how terrifying is to live your life with the regrets of not doing something you loved.

Don’t be afraid of new changes, let’s learn to embrace ’em!

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How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

Fashion is a fantastic form of self-expression, and it symbolizes creativity, cultures, and so much more. Fashion and personal style are not stagnant, and they should reflect our personal changes as we grow as people.

So the big question is: how do we break out of our own routine/style rut, and embrace the unknown territory of fashion? Here are four tips on how to break out of your fashion comfort zone:

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1. Keep an open mind and be adventurous.

How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

Just like every other matter in life, if you stay closed off to new concepts, you’ll never be able to learn and absorb fresh ideas that can benefit you. Fashion is a fun discipline and space that offers a lot of freedom in how you want to showcase yourself, so be free and let your imagination go wild when it comes to exploring your options!

2. Gather inspiration from everywhere.

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It’s so important to stay inspired. By staying inspired, you’re constantly stimulating your mind with endless possibilities! Inspiration can come in many forms: you can be inspired by an event or feeling that leads you to creating a certain color palette; you can be inspired by a blogger who has a different style that yours; you can be inspired by an era that you’re intrigued by… Take those bits of inspiration and incorporate it into your personal style!

(See our guide to finding fashion inspiration for more on this, and be sure to check out our Inspiration section to see what’s inspiring us right now.)

3. Challenge yourself with styles you’ve never tried before.

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This is the tougher part – it takes effort to find ways to challenge yourself and change your style. But it’s not impossible! Look through the styles or trends that inspired you, and pick a few that you’re the most comfortable with. Start from there, and make use of your inspirations to learn how to blend them into your wardrobe!

4. Start small, with baby steps.

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No one can change overnight. That’s why when you start taking risks, you start from smaller ones. Start with changes that are smaller and manageable, and once you’re more confident, you can then take on bigger challenges!

For example, if you love the trend of bright colors but are too scared to start? Find hues and tones that are slightly less bright (e.g. Burgundy/Bordeaux over a bright red), but are not neutral colors to ease yourself in.

Well…what do you think?

Here are my little ways to challenge my own personal style! Do you have tips to share with us on how to revamp/spice up your own style? Share with us in the comments below!

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So I completed a Snake Handling course 6 years ago and during the final test of the course, we were asked to capture and bag 5 of Australia’s Deadliest snakes in a small confined room. The room had a Tiger Snake, Dugite, King Brown, Death Adder and a Red-Bellied Black Snake all slithering around at the same time. I couldn’t believe what I had got myself into.

Snakes were one of the biggest fears of mine. I would imagine a snake running underneath my feet from time to time and I would actually bring my feet up off the floor to avoid getting entangled or bitten by these imaginary snakes I had created in my mind. I would even have nightmares about snakes biting me and it would wake me up in sweats in the middle of the night.

I could have never imagined doing this in my life but I did it because I knew that I had to get passed this ridiculous fear I had of snakes, and I am grateful I was able to show up for it.

Checkout this podcast episode where I share how You can Master your Sub Conscious Programming around your fears in 2 Steps:

While attending this course, the subject of Fear was brought up and the presenter asked a number of people:

“What Are Your Top 5 Fears?”

Were at the top of the list for most people.

The instructor carried on with a story of how he had just arrived back from a trip to the Northern Territory of Australia to visit an aboriginal community where he had met a 7-year-old boy who was absolutely scared to death of spiders and the dark.

How to Break Out of Your Comfort ZoneIt did not matter what kind of spider it is, he was scared and that was that. This boy would hunt crocodiles and lizards but was scared of even the non-venomous spiders.

All he had learned from a very young age was that spiders are dangerous and that they WILL kill you, yet the crocodiles and snakes that the boy would play with and hunt for are by far more deadly than most spiders that your everyday human would come across.

He was taught between the crucial years of 1-6 yrs old that the dark is full of evil happenings and that spiders are incredibly deadly and will kill him if he goes anywhere near them. So he was devastated to sleep in the dark and would jump on near by people just to get away from a spider nearby.

I’m not here to say that spiders aren’t dangerous, they are, and some out there have the potential to kill you. This boy was right to be cautious around spiders but where he lacked knowledge, or the right information about these creatures, eventually left him fearful of something he had never really understood.

This boy is just an example of many other people out there that are limited by their fears because of the little that they know. The less you know, the more fearful you are. This is only human and we are naturally scared of the unknown.

So the key thing here is we need more “KNOWLEDGE!” and it is in our best interest to want to understand how things work if we want to become less fearful of what the wild and wonderful world we live in has to offer.

You have to “EXPERIENCE” things to have a better understanding of the activity or whatever it is you are most scared of.

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Joel Brown – Certified Snake Handler

When you increase your knowledge you can grow to the level where your fear is set at, so when the two meet it creates a level called “RESPECT”.

This is the perfect level to be on because you will now have a respect for what you fear which will allow you to then work with it rather than being submissive and missing out on the wonderful feeling of successfully OWNING! the outer areas of your comfort zone.

Everybody has a fear of some sort and learning more about what you fear and even voyaging through your ‘un-comfortable zone‘ will prepare you for the hard knocks in life on your road to success.

I have a few more fears to conquer myself and I am happy to say that I have crossed ‘Snakes’ and a number of other top things off my list. I’m sharing this story with you in hopes that you too will face at least one or two of your fears. Not to say that “you did it“, but to prove that you can outgrow your own personal limitations.

Your fears could be holding you back, they could even be the final piece you need to experience a brand new lifestyle or a brave new world of fun.

So get out there, learn more and grow!

No matter the storm, may your Faith be stronger than your Fears – Joel Brown

Feature Image Original Source: Indiana Jones – Raiders Of The Lost Ark

It’s entirely too easy to get stuck in a rut when it comes to work.

We get in the habit of waking up the same way every day, heading to the office, punching out what’s needed, heading home, and then repeating it all exactly the same way the next day. We stop looking for new ideas and opportunities because we’re so busy “doing our thing.”

But staying in a rut is the worst thing you can do for your career and your life. It’s much more important to look for ways to get out of your comfort zone and explore new possibilities.

Benefits of Being Outside Your Comfort Zone

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” —Neale Donald Walsch, author of Conversations with God

When you go outside of your comfort zone, that’s when you grow and engage in new challenges. Research says that it’s this “stepping out” that is responsible for greatly increasing your productivity, creativity, and ability to cope with change. In fact, there’s a place of “optimal anxiety” where your performance is enhanced dramatically, and that only happens when you get out of your comfort zone.

“We need a place of productive discomfort,” said Daniel H. Pink, author of Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us (Riverhead, 2009). “If you’re too comfortable, you’re not productive. And if you’re too uncomfortable, you’re not productive. Like Goldilocks, we can’t be too hot or too cold.”

So, how do you break free at work and become your best professional self? It’s not as difficult as you think.

Also read: Your Best Professional Self Series: Letter from the Editor

5 Steps to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Getting outside your comfort zone is something you have to actively work toward on a regular basis. As humans, we prefer to be comfortable and in a steady state of performance, but it’s not what’s best for us. Instead, we have to actively take steps every day to stop the rut.

Below are five steps to get out of your comfort zone.

Step 1: Start Small

Deciding you want to climb Everest before you’ve set foot on your first mountain isn’t going to get you anywhere. You need to take small, daily steps to reach any of the huge successes that you want. By breaking down your big goals into small, accomplishable steps that are much easier to achieve, you actually give yourself a plan for success. It also allows you to focus on each day as it comes, making it the best that it can be.

“A lot of research is showing us that we do much better when we focus on incremental change, on little bits of improvement,” Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy told Business Insider. “Eventually, in aggregate, you get there. You may not even realize it, until one day you turn around say, ‘Wow, this thing is much easier for me now than it was a year ago.’”

Step 2: Ask for New Things

If you don’t know where to start to get out of your comfort zone, don’t be afraid to ask. Ask your boss for new responsibilities at work.

The goal isn’t to pack your schedule and increase your stress. Instead, you want to challenge the norm and break up your routine in such a way that you think differently. Look for a new initiative or project that interests you but isn’t something that you would feel completely comfortable accomplishing. Then, don’t be afraid to say “yes.”

Step 3: Get a Handle on Your Fears

We’re all afraid of something, and it’s in our nature to be afraid of being uncomfortable. But to get outside your comfort zone, you have to recognize your fears, get a handle on them, and focus on being confident.

When was the last time you felt uncomfortable? How did it feel? When you gain a clear idea of what it feels like to get out of your comfort zone and how it manifests in your body, you make it easier to notice when it happens. Then, you can do what’s needed to replace your fearful thought with a more empowering perspective.

As Executive Coach Janet Ioli told Forbes, “Repeating the mantra, ‘I am fearless’ over and over again and envisioning yourself successfully doing or achieving what you fear can help you reprogram your disempowering thought habit and move forward.”

Also read: Defining Confidence: What Does Professional Confidence Look Like? (Part 1) | Your Best Professional Self Series

Step 4: Scare Yourself Daily

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Now that you know and understand your fears, to get out of your comfort zone, you need to be willing to scare yourself. Good things happen when you do the things that fill your stomach with butterflies. You’re moving forward.

Challenge yourself and do something that makes you scared. Whether it’s something as small as meeting someone new or big like asking for a promotion, doing something that scares you is the fourth step toward achieving your goals and going outside your comfort zone.

Step 5: Be Curious

Finally, it’s vital that you never lose your curiosity. Curiosity is not just for kids. Even as adults and working professionals, we need to be curious about the world and ready to learn new things and experience new opportunities.

To get out of your comfort zone, you need to shift your focus away from the mundane and start becoming intensely curious about the world. And it doesn’t have to be work-related. Becoming curious about cooking could transfer skills to your job. Becoming curious about learning anything new can make you a better leader.

As Gina Rometty, the CEO of IBM said at the Forbes’ 2013 Most Powerful Women Summit, “The most important thing for any of us to be in our jobs is curious.”

Moving Forward

Going outside your comfort zone is a lifelong learning process. If you don’t take steps forward every single day, you’ll easily fall back into your usual routine and become stagnant.

Instead, take just an hour every day at the office to be uncomfortable and learn something new about your job, yourself, or life. Once you physically and emotionally embody this ideal, you’ll discover that your comfort zone isn’t so comfortable after all.

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In 2017, I hit the reset button on my comfort zone. I quit my job (I actually quit two jobs), I moved from California to Arizona and started a new position as chief operating officer for HomeSmart International. Oh, and I became an Ironman!

The journey to resetting my comfort zone actually began with committing to doing something so crazy and so far beyond what I thought were my physical limits, I wasn’t even sure it was possible.

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Wendy Forsythe, you are an Ironman!

I have always been athletic, but completing in an Ironman race was unimaginable to me. How could I possibility cover 140.6 combined miles of swimming, cycling and running in 17 hours or less. Was I strong enough? Was I tough enough? I wasn’t sure.

Spoiler alert: I did finish the race! I crossed the finish line and heard the words “Wendy Forsythe, you are an Ironman!” I had reset my comfort zone in what I could accomplish as an athlete.

What I didn’t expect is what hitting the reset button on my comfort zone would do in all other areas of my life. Here are the four steps I followed to get out of my comfort zone and what I learned along the way.

Step 1: Set a goal that scares you

If you know you can achieve it, it’s not a goal — it’s a to-do. New milestones are made when serious doubt and real fear of failure exists. This is what drives and motivates you when the days are long, you are tired, you are frustrated and life happens.

Because life will happen, and things will not go according to plan.

Focus, discipline and commitment get you to the goal. The bigger the goal, the more of each of these three things you need. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Step 2: You can do more than your head lets you

The more I did physically while training for Ironman, the more my perspective changed. My limits started to expand not just in my hobby of triathlon, but also in my work life.

While training, I started saying things like “It’s only a 60-mile bike ride,” or “It’s only a 13-mile run.”

I looked at challenges from a new perspective and became more confident in taking risks. My physical and mental endurance was growing. What was once unimaginable physically was now possible. That is a powerful mindset shift.

I’ve come to realize that mental endurance is one of the most significant determinants of success in life. I was strengthening my mental endurance while training for Ironman, and this endurance allowed me to accomplish more in my professional endeavors.

Think about how you will strengthen your mental endurance.

Step 3: Find people to push you, support you and kick you in the ass

In triathlon, you learn that if you want to swim, bike or run faster you should train with people who are faster than you are. On my team, I was one of the slowest.

I often joked with my teammates that I somehow ended up with the advanced class, and I was a beginner. But here’s the thing, I worked harder to keep up. At every group practice, I was envious of the skills and determination of my teammates.

They made me uncomfortable. They made me self-conscious. They humbled me.

But they made me better.

Surround yourself with people who are so good they make you uncomfortable; they will also make you better.

Step 4: Go for it

What is your big goal for 2018? That thing that you don’t want to say out loud because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Whether it’s a production goal, starting a team, starting a brokerage, changing your job, moving to a new state or doing an Ironman, it’s time to go for it!

Hit the reset button, get uncomfortable, and get prepared to work hard. Amazing things are waiting for you just outside your comfort zone.

Wendy Forsythe is the chief operating officer for HomeSmart International in Scottsdale, Arizona. Follow her on Facebook, or connect with her on LinkedIn.

How to Break Out of Your Comfort ZoneAre you doing work you are truly passionate about or because it’s comfortable?Teri Ijeoma wants to inspire you to break out of your comfort zone to embrace your passion like she did.

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She spent years working in education because she thought it was the more comfortable path instead of pursuing her life-long passion for investing in stocks.

Terri eventually broke free to help people travel by trading stocks. You can learn how at itradeandtravel.

Lot of great lessons in our conversation including:

  1. How Terri used her education career to lay the foundation for her current business teaching people how to invest in stocks.
  2. How she used stock trading as her exit strategy from her job.
  3. The 4 steps Teri has identified to help people invest in the stock market, based around breaking down myths.
  4. Why you value money differently when you work for yourself.

Life Skills That Matter In This Episode

  • Manage your energy
  • Reframe your mindset
  • Embrace discomfort
  • Plan your actions
  • Break out of your comfort zone

How Teri Works and Thinks

  • Wake up time: 7:45 am
  • Core work activities + habits: 1) Speaking. 2) Putting together her course. 3) Trading.
  • Superpower: Teaching.

Inspirational Quotes

“I needed a job where I could work from anywhere and where I could be free.”

“Of course, you win some, you lose some, because you’re learning.”

“We don’t realize it, but when our spirit really wants us to leave somewhere, we’re also not doing our job as well.”

Coaching Advice

If you’re interested in traveling for extended periods of time while you’re working, Teri shared this advice:

1) Download a really good VPN (virtual private network).

2) Think about how time differences will affect your work.

3) Take plenty of time to enjoy your trip!

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We all have comfort zones, whether it be at home, work, the gym, or even on vacation. No doubt you’ve heard that “the magic happens outside of your comfort zone,” but what exactly is a fitness comfort zone and just how do you get outside of it?

What is a fitness comfort zone?

A comfort zone is defined as a place or situation where one feels safe or at ease without stress. When relating to fitness, that means following a habitual pattern day in and day out because it’s comfortable. It means finding exercises or classes that you love and repeating them over and over again because, well, you love them.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with finding workouts and exercises that you love and sticking with them! That said, once in awhile it’s great to step outside of your fitness comfort zone to try something different. Not only will it help you spice up your routine, it could also help you break a fitness plateau, jack up your motivation, or even help you learn something about yourself you never thought possible.

How to break out of your comfort zone.

Getting outside of your fitness comfort zone is all about experiencing new things. Have you ever been curious about a KettleWorx class? Ever walked by the room where the Barre30 class is happening and think, “I could never do that…” Well, dear friend, there’s no time like the present to give it a go!

Don’t fear the idea of being uncomfortable.

If the idea of change is holding you back, or a fear of not having enough coordination or strength, or whatever your inner reasoning may be, just go for it. Step past whatever is holding you back, step outside of your regular routine—your comfort zone—and sign up for the class. You never know, you might love it and wonder why it took you so long to try it.

And if it turns out not to be your thing, that’s okay too. You tried it. You dared to do something out of the ordinary. That is exactly what breaking the barriers of your fitness comfort zone is about.

Increase your intensity.

Another way to step outside of your fitness comfort zone is to kick your workouts up a notch. Do you always do 15 reps with a 10 lb dumbbell? Have you ever taken advantage of the incline function on the treadmill? Tried any of the pre-set elliptical challenges? Ever done a virtual course on the stationary bike? Accepted a challenge from a fellow gym mate? These are all things that would mix up your routine and push you. You never know, taking things to the next level just might help you see where your potential really lies.

Taking risks is what helps us grow, and it is important for both personal and physical growth.

Now, take a moment to find your comfort zone.

Most of us regularly let fear rule our lives in the name of comfort.

We refuse to speak in public. We decline an invitation to a party where we won’t know many people. We might even avoid driving on the highway or wearing a swimsuit to the pool.

These boundaries are not stupid.

They are designed to keep us safe, physically and emotionally.

We stay in the comfort zone we have created, and we feel…well, comfortable.

Comfort doesn’t hurt us. That’s the wonderful thing about it. However, it doesn’t help us much, either. When we stay in our comfort zones, we don’t allow ourselves to grow. Many people live their entire lives within the boundaries their comfort has created. You’ve seen them – placid, stagnant, and a little bit boring. They refuse to challenge themselves, and they grow old before their time. Their lives remain small, and their accomplishments remain modest and predictable.

It’s not the worst way to live – but it’s certainly not the best one.

The difficulty for most people comes in leaving their comfort zone, or even just widening the boundaries.

Here are five steps to help you take off in that direction:

1. Assess your comfort zone with honesty.

Did you opt out of a hike with friends because you were busy – or were you worried you wouldn’t be able to keep up? Did you refuse to apply to colleges because of the expense – or were you afraid you wouldn’t get in? Often, we fool ourselves into thinking our comfort zone is larger than it is. If the boundaries aren’t there, we don’t have the responsibility to ourselves to push them. Look at your comfort zone with clear, non-judgemental eyes. Meet yourself where you are.

2. Start small.

If you are afraid of public speaking, don’t jump right in and offer to speak in front of hundreds of people. This will cause you undue anxiety and stress. Instead, push your boundaries in ways that are small but significant. Offer to say Thanksgiving grace in front of your extended family. Sign up to read a book to your daughter’s first grade class. Then, gradually increase the stakes. Don’t go straight for a presentation to the board of your company. Offer to speak to the interns first. These small victories will build your skills in a way that is manageable and sustainable. Then, you’ll be ready for the big game.

3. Seek support.

There is a good chance you are not the first to struggle against this particular boundary. Find those who have done it successfully, and learn from their wisdom. Classic public speaking fears can be addressed at a Toastmasters meeting. If anxiety and depression are keeping you from living your life, check out one of these groups and speak with your doctor.

If you are being kept in your comfort zone by an addiction, such as to food or alcohol, there are people who want to support you right in your area. Once you begin to look, you will be surprised at the resources available to you.

4. Pull from your strengths.

Identify an opportunity where your strengths are at play just as much as your fears. For example, consider that you are a pop culture and sci-fi connoisseur who is terrified of talking to strangers. An event like Comic-Con could give you the chance to interact with like-minded people in an atmosphere that fosters fun and camaraderie. Are you a good writer, but shy speaker? Read your best work to a group of friends. Choose a topic you know inside and out. Find or create a situation where your strengths are on display. Confidence will follow.

5. Commit.

Don’t give yourself the option of backing out. Sign up in a tangible way. Pay for the event you will be attending. Tell three people close to you about your plans. Make it as difficult as possible to cancel at the last minute. Keep your expectations realistic. Remind yourself that your goal is to push your comfort zone, and that feeling discomfort is part of the process. It means you’re growing.

“Life always begins with one step outside of your comfort zone,” wrote Shannon L. Alder.

Take one step today, and then another tomorrow, and maybe three more over the course of this week. You’ll be surprised how far a little bit of courage can take you.

Hello and welcome, my name is Stephen Richards and I am a self-help author. This Cosmic Ordering blog is going to change your life. There are a million reasons to change your life. Others are securing their success with Cosmic Ordering and the law of attraction and that really is no secret, as lots are doing it . even if they say they are not. When you use mind power to change your life then you will see results.

Mind Power Author Stephen Richards

Sunday, 23 December 2012

Break Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Find Your New Life By Stephen Richards

If you do what everyone else does, you will get what everyone else gets. If you want more than what most have, then you must do far more than what it is they do.

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Too often, we live in a bubble dictated by everyone else. We are told to pay attention in school, to get a job, to settle down, to save money for a rainy day, and to set some aside for retirement. Banks tell us to borrow money for that house or car, while the fashion industry tells us what to wear.

While there is nothing wrong with such advice or urgings, per se, sometimes it becomes an excuse not to think for ourselves, not to pursue our own goals, and not to follow our own dreams or our own way.

It becomes easy, in other words, to remain within our comfort zone.

The problem is that the more we succumb to others’ ideas of how we should live, think, and be, the more distanced we become from ourselves, until our comfort zone becomes something set in stone, becoming smaller and more rigid with each passing year.

One day we may wake up and wonder what happened to our lives, to the dreams we used to have when we were younger. If we are negative, we may look back with regret and say, “if only.”

If you are positive, however, you will use those same words to make up for lost time.

Do not neglect your dreams, and do not settle for the average, however you define both.

The universe is infinite, and the experiences and opportunities available to us are likewise. Reawaken in yourself the child-like wonder you used to have that has never really died, but only been suppressed beneath the weight of your daily routine. You put yourself where you are, and if you find yourself unsatisfied with how you are, then get yourself out of it.

Begin by learning more about successful people. If you do, then you will find that besides being positive people, there are also those who have never let go of their dreams. However diverse their dreams may be, a common thread runs through them all: their dreams are about doing what it is they love.

When you tie your positive attitude with what you love, and pursue a career in the same, you will find new opportunities opening up for you. Do not avoid doing what you love because you fear that it will only result in poverty or lack. If you fear this, then this is exactly what will happen.

Remember: the universe is infinite and abundant. Therefore your income (if that is what concerns you) need not be tied to what you do, but with what you think and feel.

Gratitude is one way to improve the way you think and feel, but it becomes strengthened when you act upon it by living your life to its fullest. You do this by following your dreams, by not being content to be just one more observer, but by being an active participant in your own life.

Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. However humble you start out in the pursuit of your dreams, your passion, your goals, the important thing is that you have made that start, that you have taken that first step.

The universe, being responsive, senses that and must therefore respond accordingly.

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This is a guide covering the comfort zone and tips to get out of it.

“Comfort is the enemy of Progress” – PT Barnum

As enticing as it may sound, the comfort zone is not at all a comfortable place to live, at least not in the long run.

Living inside the comfort zone is choosing an ostensibly risk-free life because the alternative is facing your fears and taking deliberate action.

We choose the comfort zone because it makes us feel safe and secure, and as a result, it makes us begrudgingly complacent with the status quo.

Barely managing and doing just enough to stay above water, that’s not how anyone would consciously want to live.

You will probably experience life on a superficial level if you do not choose to proactively conquer your fears and expand your boundaries.

You probably can make more money right now, but you don’t want to work those extra hours; you can take that opportunity at work, but that would mean more responsibility; or you could make new friends anywhere, but that means putting yourself out there regularly.

Before we can start tearing through the barriers to getting out of that dreaded comfort zone, first, let’s try to understand it by exploring the meaning of comfort zone.

Then let’s look at why it is so hard to break free and what does it feel like to break out of the comfort zone.

We’ll be covering the following topics (click on a bullet point to jump to that section):

Table of Contents

What is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is a state of mental being caused by the region of psychological, physiological, and mental stagnation brought upon by the fear of taking risks and expanding your boundaries.

The comfort zone is primarily caused by fear and lack of motivation. Fear of the unknown, risks, and change can handicap our growth.

Growth will always lie on the outside of our comfort zone.

To illustrate the comfort zone, think of a circle.

Put inside the circle everything that you are comfortable doing; these are the things that you find easier to do, and they are risk-free. Everything that you have put inside the circle represents your comfort zone.

How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

stepping outside of comfort zone

Now, think about all the things that you fear doing because they force you to grow, acquire new skills, experience new people and places et cetera.

This is what lies out of your comfort zone. And this is where all the growth happens. Follow your fears, because that’s where the growth lies.

Is Being in the Comfort Zone Good or Bad?

Staying put safely inside your comfort zone is constraining your potential and experience of life.

The self-imposed barrier of fear can limit your ability to grow.

Life can be full of ups and downs, and if you aren’t working on your warrior spirit every second of your life then it can put you down hard.

Missing opportunities, letting experiences slip through your fingers and fearing a little discomfort might get you a little fleeting comfort, but the regret of missed chances and laziness can pile on over time and lead to crippling depression and pessimism about life.

Performance anxiety will be there even if you have mastered a skill to perfection. That is a different matter altogether.

Anxiety will always accompany any worthy endeavor in life. People need to have realistic expectations of anxiety levels.

In fact, up to certain level anxiety can even boost your performance by activating that fight or flight response.

But beyond that level, it can cause panic. More on that later in the next section: why is it hard to leave the comfort zone?

What you should fear the most in life is getting comfortable. You should diligently work towards acquainting yourself with discomfort, every time pushing the boundary a bit further out.

That is an extremely effective way to outgrow the person you are and become the person you want to be.

Even when you achieve your goals, or when a skill starts becoming comfortable, push further; there is always more room to grow.

Avoid complacency like the plague because it will keep you well inside your comfort zone, costing you your valuable potential for growth.

To further explore this subject, we recommend this TED Talk by Luvvie Ajayi Jones:

This post is written by guest blogger, Daphne Reznik.

Daphne is a very inspiring woman and her blog posts really captured my attention. When she agreed to write this guest post on the topic of getting out of your comfort zone, I knew it would be great! Check it out below.

Get to know Daphne –

She is the creator of the Free At 50 blog, which focuses on life after corporate, how to transition into professional freedom, and resources to create income streams.

Daphne has a diverse background having worked in state government, small business, and most recently, a large corporate entity. Her experience supporting businesses and leading a national staff training program, provided her with a skill set she is using to design a lifestyle as a blogger and to inspire others.

Who am I to speak?

I’m a Gen X gal.

I did all the “right things” for 30 years. Started working in what came to be my full-time job when I was in college. I paid taxes and never took more than a week off (and let’s be honest: I was always a phone call, text, or email away!). Then in 2020 I was laid off and getting out of my comfort zone was necessary.

RELATED: Read my story here, where I shared how my Covid layoff was a blessing on my Free At 50 blog!

Living life as a GenXer during Covid brought a mindset shift.

I’ve never been a “woo” type person, but shifting your mindset is a real thing. Especially for those of us in midlife, who were brought up to do the “right things.” We were the first ones in and last out at the office. Many of us went to college and got degrees. (spent a lot of money on it actually!).

Now, outside the bubble of 9-5 life, I had to pivot. Believe me, I’ve done it professionally over the years, but one thing I never went without a paycheck.

For the first time ever, I was filing for unemployment. And you know what? I felt no guilt.

Why? I’d done my time, paid my taxes from age 19-49, and earned big bucks – for OTHERS. Since my layoff was due to budget constraints and happened during Covid, I had time to dig deep and do a mindset shift.

I’ve gained skills. I can do this entrepreneurial thing, which for me was the Free At 50 blog- bringing my concept of owning my time to life.

You can use your skills to own your time too.

How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

Get over your fears: you can use your skills, experience a mindset shift, and enjoy the back half of life.

You have skills and they can be married with your passions.

When I was laid off, people were so “sorry” and offered assistance in finding something else, another corporate job!

The truth was I was mentally ready to own my time. I knew I had skills but was unsure where to start. I just knew that semi-retirement and being able to get to my aging parents without having to ask for time off was vital. So was leaving Michigan, where I wasn’t loving it, and moving to my favorite vacation spot.

My friend Diana got it. She understood I didn’t need help throwing my resume around the industry. She heard me. Not everyone in Gen X does get it because we’re conditioned on the 9-5 tradition.

Diana recommended The 4-Hour Workweek. I downloaded it from the library on my Kindle and within hours, ordered a hard copy so I could highlight and bookmark passages!

In short: it was an affirmation that not only could I break the 9-5 tradition, but I could use the skills I’ve gained over the years, marry them with my passions, and create a business and a lifestyle that makes me happy.

It actually eliminated the term “retirement” from my brain. Why wait until some “age” that our culture has said is appropriate to start enjoying life?

How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

What if I don’t make it to that age? Let’s be honest, I was watching Gen X leave us too soon.

  • I had a former colleague pass away from a heart attack at age 50.
  • I have a good friend who was waiting for her last kid to leave high school and would “someday” start a freelance business to semi-retire. She was in a horrible car crash and began on a path to a long rehabilitation. When would someday come?
  • The alcohol and opioid deaths- I am certain we all have been or know someone affected over the last few years.

Ok- I’m not trying to depress you all, but instead: INSPIRE YOU. Life is precious and I was reading this book and KNEW I was going to take my skills and use them for building a “next chapter.”

Mindset shifts are possible, even at midlife!

Simply put: the 4-Hour Workweek was my first mindset shift in my journey out of my comfort zone. It gave me the realization that I can change the way I view myself and my future.

And that happened for me at age 49.

Take action: it’s the final step on my 6-steps to escape the 9-5 but a constant in getting out of your comfort zone anytime.

As a blogger focused on sharing inspiration and resources to build your next chapter, working on it myself, here are my 6 steps:

  1. Find your why.
  2. Shift your mindset.
  3. Narrow your options.
  4. Research the best fit.
  5. Build your toolkit.
  6. Take action.

Taking action is vital all the way through your journey. I have it as step 6 to remind you all that you need to move forward constantly.

How to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

Find the right people.

At this point in life, it seems strange I’m asking you to step out of your comfort zone of your friends and family, but I am.

  • Join Facebook groups.
  • Hire a coach.
  • Build a peer tribe.

Invest in yourself so you can use your skills to build your next chapter.

I’m not saying ditch your friends and family, but make sure you have people around you that understand your goals and can assist you in reaching them.

My call to action for you!

Grab my checklist by using the link in my bio.

No matter your situation, start with Step 1: your why. Midlife is the time to really focus on what’s important to us.

Don’t let the fear of leaving your comfort zone hold you back from enjoying every moment you have left on this amazing earth! If I hadn’t, I wouldn’t be living in Colonial Williamsburg, I’d still be in Michigan.